Discover the secret to connection over conflict
Rewire your relationship with these 6 proven strategies.
Your partner will finally be able to show how much they care once you've built
emotional safety together. 

Every day, you’ll feel how deeply important you are to your partner. You share your needs confidently because now they prioritize you, empathize, and show up when you need them.

Instead of criticizing & blaming you, your partner reaches out softly for support, trusting that you care. You know exactly how to soothe them, and the best part? Now there’s space for your needs, too.

Take back the time you’d spend reading all the books or investing in expensive trainings, because a licensed therapist (Me) has done that for you— and distilled it into this course!


Accessible immediately for $47 FREE

Fight after fight leaves you feeling more isolated 

Every argument gets more intense... and it’s taking longer and longer to get back to feeling connected.

A calm, steady sense of love is what you crave, but the hurts and resentments just keep piling up without resolution. It feels like any misstep in communication flares instantly into conflict.

You keep trying to connect– or to get enough space to ground yourself– but you’re worn down, longing for the days when your partner seemed to understand and cherish you for who you are.

Decades of research in human connection (the field of attachment science) demonstrates that we are wired to need connection like we need oxygen.

Most of us aren't taught how to turn a relationship into safe haven.


You’re truly doing your best.


I want to match your effort with effective skills to finally create the love you long for!

"This course felt like a warm embrace for my anxious heart. I really appreciated the way it was broken down into shorter sections. It was an easy listen, and very accessible on the go. It will be a breeze to go back and find key moments to review when I need a refresher. And the paired exercises at the end were brilliant!"


-Megan Miron

Ready to craft relationships that take care of you?

A Podcast Course (plus Transcript) that you can listen to from your favorite podcast player!

In this course I will:

Unpack the reasons you feel criticized, distant, and uncared for.

Walk you step-by-step through 3 sets of proven strategies (6 total!) for being cherished-- that you and your partner can start using today.

You'll learn:

The deeper, more vulnerable emotions that drive hostility, and shutdown (most couples never communicate on this level-- and it changes the game!).

Simple communication shifts that will build a bridge between you. Instead of triggering conflict, honest conversations will create closeness!

Exactly how to give each other the softness and support you crave to turn your relationship into a safe haven.

And the best news? You can go through the entire course in just over half an hour and start implementing it today!

This course side-steps fluff and delivers substantive insight in every episode— without info-dumping. 

"I am a certified Emotionally Focused Therapist (a well-researched attachment therapy) and Joy has made the material understandable, relatable, and delivered it in a most compassionate way. The course is so good, I am going to include it in my resource list for couples who seek me out for services. Thank you, Joy, for this beautiful and deeply helpful course!"


-Lisa Blum, Psy.D., EFT Clinical Supervisor

For $47 FREE!

Have a look inside the course...

Episodes 1 - 3

Understand how conflict and distance are created in your current communication 

You'll gain a deep understanding of:

How you and your partner bond (Attachment).

How your relationship will become a refuge once you can count on connection (Secure Attachment).

Your own attachment style, and your partner's.

Why the way you're reaching out (Anxious Attachment) or steering clear of conflict (Avoidant Attachment) leaves you feeling more alone than ever.

Episodes 4 - 5

The X-Ray view into your partner's emotions

When conflict spirals, all we see is our partner's heartbreaking attitude, behavior, and words, which beg the question, "Do they even like me anymore?"


What if instead, you could get an 'X-Ray view' into their heart?

You'll learn:

The surprising emotions of hurt, fear, shame, and longing that drive anger, sharp words, and shutdown.

With 'X-Ray vision,' you'll know how to decode your partner's hurtful behavior and stay focused on putting the strategies you learn into practice.

Episodes 6 - 7

Finding the real 'culprit' in the relationship (hint: it's not either of you!)

Gain perspective on why your & your partner's current combined strategies for connection just lead to heartache.


I'll walk you through:

A play-by-play of why things unravel between you and your partner.

How to engage in this learning, even if your partner isn't open to learning, too.

Episode 8

Strategies 1 & 2: Reducing conflict escalation

Every relationship has its raw spots and trigger points that lead to intense emotions and flight, fight, or freeze. 

What if you knew exactly how to exit escalation and find calm, connected footing together?
 

Learn to:

Prevent overwhelm for your Avoidant beloved. 

Give your Anxious beloved the resolution they need.

Episode 9

Strategies 3 & 4: Increasing trust & reassurance

When we don't understand our partner's behavior, we interpret their motives through the lens of our own insecurity– making assumptions that lead to frustration and mistrust. 

What if you could interpret your partner through the lens of feeling fully seen and valued? 

Learn to:

Give your Avoidant babe the benefit of the doubt when they feel distant. 

Reassure your Anxious babe when they start finding fault.

Episode 10

Strategies 5 & 6: Connect with what your partner is feeling

Our big feelings of fear, hurt, and shame are usually buried beneath harsher words, behavior, and attitudes. This discrepancy creates a cycle of misunderstanding and loneliness. 

What if instead, you could tune into your partner’s inner world and feel the security that comes with understanding? 

Learn to:

Become aware of your Avoidant partner’s big feelings. 

Lean into your Anxious partner’s softer emotions.

Episode 11

Resources for further help for your relationship

By the time many of us learn successful strategies for creating a secure bond, our relationships are already be stuck in rigid patterns of disconnection.

We may need more help to rebuild trust and safety, and establish new, effective patterns.

Resources include:

A directory of attachment-trained relationship therapists located all over the world.

A list of must-read books for bringing healing to your adult relationship, and/or your parent-child relationship.

All this is truly inside this 36 minute podcast course! I've taken my 25 years of training & experience as a counselor and boiled it down to just what you need to learn without overwhelm.

Here’s what others are saying about From Heartache to Connection:

"I read the course, rather than listened to it. Initially, I saw all the episodes listed out and thought there looked to be much more than would fit into the time. But, the course absolutely opened my eyes. On seeing my own and my partner’s behaviours described so clearly, I was able to read the x-ray parts and understand what my partner was feeling inside. That the things I was feeling were normal, but based on a misunderstanding.


I'm feeling so much more positive about our future together now. I've looked at our previous bitter arguments through the lens of this new knowledge and it's given me so much more hope that we can learn to communicate better with each other."

-Matthew Collins

"This course genuinely blew me away with how informative it was. Joy has a way of making complex ideas accessible. I was asked to review this content for non-monogamous inclusivity, which is how I know what it's about, but then decided independently that I wanted to let my audience know about it-- she answers loads of questions that often come up in my coaching sessions."


-Ro Moëd, Unapolygetically

"I know what it's like to feel as if you're caught up in the same painful cycle in relationship after relationship. This course will help you break that cycle. It will help you understand your triggers and needs as well as -- and this is important -- your partner's. 


With compassion, empathy and insight, Joy gives you simple, common sense tools that enable you to navigate your relationship dynamics and change what might previously have seemed like an inevitable outcome. 


 You don't have to be in a relationship to take this course. I'm not and I got so much out of it. And the great thing is that you can return to it whenever you feel that your old wounds are getting the better of you. Thank you, Joy, for this invaluable resource."


-Amy Mayers

"This course was so informative, insightful, and eye opening. It gives you action steps as well as insight into your attachment style. You'll even be able to 'diagnose' past partners! You'll receive strategies use in all of your relationships. You'll learn how to best navigate relationships, areas to watch out for, and how best to communicate. I was blown away! It's going to change your relationships-- trust me on this!"


-Lisa Heidle, Author and Co-host of The Ego Project Podcast

Is this for you?
This course is (rooted in research) for:

All sexual orientations

All genders

All relationship styles (mono and non-mono) that seek secure connection

Platonic relationships that seek secure connection

Single folks who want to build the skills for a healthy future relationship

Relationships that have become more a source of pain than pleasure.

Relationships that are still loving and enjoyable, but the same conflicts keep popping up, and you want to resolve these problems before they get worse.

New relationships that want to start off with the skills to stay close through every challenge.

This course will not be helpful if:

Your relationship includes emotional, physical, or sexual abuse.

You or your partner has an addiction that significantly interferes with the relationship. 

You or your partner no longer have the desire to be together.

In these cases, individual therapy with an experienced licensed therapist can be a strong resource for help.

I'm Joy Malek, a mixed race Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (a.k.a relationship therapist)

My 25 years of experience working with relationships, and my 13 years of training & experience within the field of Attachment (Emotionally Focused Therapy) gave me a reliable roadmap for understanding connection and disconnection. 


I know that you've worked hard to try to find a steady sense of love in your relationship. 


And yet, without a roadmap your relationship keeps snapping back to a sense of overwhelm, loneliness, and deprivation.


In this course, I'll walk you through the same information I use in relationship therapy, which changes things at the emotional root of your conflict.

Grow the love you long for
The cycle of pain ends here. It's time for you to finally feel your partner's love. 
Access From Heartache to Connection for
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Frequently Asked Questions:
  • Will I still get a benefit if my partner isn't open to learning from this course?
    It's very common for one partner to feel more open to learning and working on the relationship than the other, so you're not alone.

    While I don't want you to try to take on singlehandedly changing the relationship by yourself, the insights you gain from this course will help you better understand how and why you're feeling disconnected from your partner.

    You might then share with them what you're learning, and that you are trying to apply the strategies you're learning.

    There are no guarantees, but your partner may even see your effort, and feel more open to learning themselves.
  • Does this course apply if I'm queer and/or gender expansive?
    Absolutely! Thanks for taking the time to explore whether this course is a good fit for you.

    The attachment principles I share here have been researched across sexual orientations and gender identities. And, as I created this course, I didn't assume any particular sexual orientation or gender identity of those who will listen to it.
  • What if I'm single and want to develop secure attachment?
    I'm so glad you're here! I personally began on the road to secure attachment while I was still single.

    As you listen to this course, think about your closest relationships, and apply what you learn to them.

    I also encourage folks to use these strategies in individual therapy, in moments when it feels like your therapist isn't getting you. Talk to them about your desire to build secure attachment, and process the feelings that come up when you're feeling disconnected from your therapist.
  • Does this course apply to non-romantic and/or non-sexual relationships?
    Yes, it surely does! Though I refer to "partners" throughout the course, I kept in mind ace folks and those whose relationship struggles are happening in their platonic connections.

    This course is meant to be applied to your closest relationships, no matter what kind.

    I do encourage you to think about the degree of closeness you have with someone before applying these strategies. There are some relationships (I'm thinking of conventional work relationships, for example) in which the level of vulnerability I teach in this course may not be appropriate.
  • Does this course apply if my relationships are non-monogamous?
    Absolutely, and welcome! This course does not assume your relationship style, and it applies to any relationships in which the goal is to feel a sense of emotional security.

    If you're non-monogamous, I encourage you to listen to the course more than once, keeping your dynamics with a different partner in mind each time.
  • What about accessibility?
    This podcast course comes with a full written & downloadable transcript, which I've edited for clarity.
  • What's the refund policy?
    Refunds are available for any reason within 14 days of purchase.
  • Is this course psychotherapy?
    No, this course is not psychotherapy, and is not designed to provide the nature of healing and growth that psychotherapy offers.
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